I was going through an article on http://www.youthkiawaaz.com, that what are the stereotypes about working women, two points caught my eyes because I can relate to them. Which are:
1: Women With Ambitions Are Somehow Of Bad Character And Attract Unnecessary Attention From Men.
2: Careers For Women Are Also Pre-defined – Teaching, Nursing, Medical Doctors. Not Acceptable – Journalism, TV, Field Reporting, Etc.
Well in my case I am from a small town in West Bengal. I don’t stay at my hometown anymore because of my career.
In 2017 in the same hometown of mine I started facing some issues regarding bank, so I asked for help from an almost influential person. Whereas, when it came to the solution of that problem the person whom I approached ofcourse told everyone he was helping me because I was spotted with him on our way to the bank.
He couldn’t help obviously. So I gave up on him. On the very next day he called me up and then used these words, “Women are not fit enough for journalism and tv” (I used to work in a channel at that point of time) and he didn’t help me because that could have affected his family’s reputation. I didn’t answer him back because I didn’t want to get into any argument. Later on, on my gutts I solved that issue.
After some days he texted and apologised for his words.
Later on he started discussing my work related stuff with me.
One fine day he told me “Ladies who work don’t have a good character and you can easily sleep with people to reach somewhere”. I replied with a smiling smiley and blocked him from everywhere. Tbh that day, I wanted to break his face. Because during my entire career it was known by people who worked with me that I had been a hard worker.
Well, to be straight forward enough, ladies don’t need to sleep around to reach somewhere. That is what some people don’t understand due to their cheap mentality.
There are more stereotypes. If you have male friends, you don’t have a character. You work late at night you are characterless. These issues are not only faced by ladies in cities but small town girls mostly face it.
Many girls from my hometown or other small towns come to me till date with same issue which they face in their area because these girls dared to work in a challenging field. Some are my juniors. Some know me somehow.
Only suggestion which I have always given and I still give is: An empty mind is devil’s workshop and people who are unable to achieve anything will always criticise you.
There are two major reasons for their way of thinking these stuff are: either they never had a working lady in a challenging field at home or they couldn’t take advantage of you.
In my case it was the second thing.
Ladies never let these people get into your mind. If you are truly careeristic ignore it. Your career should matter to you not what these people say.
It’s your life be daring enough to take your own decisions and fight for it. Because ladies always remember you are worth it.